Stress and turmoil sometimes make you forget even about simple formulas of politeness. Check if your habits are on this list. Avoid their manifestation - and legends will circulate about your upbringing.

Do not say hello

We are taught the elementary rules of politeness from early childhood: it would seem that it could be easier to say hello and say goodbye. If the desire to leave in English from a noisy party can still be understood, then constant silence at a meeting is perceived as rudeness and a dismissive attitude. Bad parenting is especially noticeable when dealing with service employees: ignoring or answering through your teeth when the staff greets you is bad form, even if it seemed to you that they were insincere with you. You should not produce rudeness.

Send voice messages

An important caveat: there is nothing shameful in the format of voice messages, and in communicating with friends it can be really convenient. At the same time, you should not send the audio recording to strangers, especially in the framework of business communication, and in group chats - respect the time of other people. Probably, your friends will also be much more comfortable if you write something like: “Hello! She talked about the trip. Listen when it's convenient." So the interlocutor will know what to expect from the message, and he will not have to urgently listen to the entire recording just in case - suddenly there is something important in the finale of the story.

Correct speech errors

A loved one can be corrected - if others do not hear you and you are sure that your good intentions are known to the interlocutor. You should not teach the correct speech of strangers: instead of gratitude, you will run into aggression. The fact is that by correcting speech errors, you demonstrate your own superiority and point out the shortcomings of the interlocutor - who will like it? Yes, and everyone can make a reservation, including you.

Skip the line

Fortunately, digitalization has made queues much more comfortable - just take an electronic ticket and wait for a call. Or find out who and for what time is recorded. But even in such a situation, there are those who "just ask." There are also coupons for questions - use it. Otherwise, you risk being branded as an arrogant and ill-mannered person who thinks only of himself.


You may not agree with someone else's opinion, but interrupting is the height of tactlessness. Let the interlocutor express the idea, perhaps it was you who misunderstood something, and you just need to listen to what they are talking about. You don't read minds, do you? Then you have to take turns talking.

insult for opinion

This vicious practice thrives on the web, where comments on any topic are filled with strangers exchanging selective insults. And all because they do not agree with each other. Would you like to write something like that? Hands off the keyboard. Think about it, would you say the same thing to a person in person? Most likely no. Don't waste your time and save your reputation. The Internet remembers everything, including pointless skirmishes. In life, all the more so, a conversation in raised tones will not be constructive. Focus on the problem, and not on the desire to hurt your opponent for the sick - only ill-mannered scandalous people do this.

Ignore others

Do you know the situation when a person next to you watches a loud video without headphones, or in a crowded transport someone took two adjacent places with a bag? Rudeness can be silent - that's what it is. A well-mannered person will not knowingly cause inconvenience to others, especially when it is easy to avoid.


It's nice to feel like an expert and give advice on who and how to do it. Plus, it's much easier than dealing with your own problems. Never give advice until you've been asked for it, even if you really want to. Prying into someone else's life is uncivilized in itself, doing it persistently is indecent, even with the best of intentions. Valuable but unsolicited advice will not be followed by the addressee in any case.


Show questionable gestures

Another reliable way to show others bad parenting is to send non-verbal signals of inappropriate content. For example, roll your eyes, defiantly yawn or pout, and fold your arms across your chest. Learned to think before speaking - great! But body language sometimes says more than it should. Educated people do not have such performances.

Make fun of other people's shortcomings

There are no ideal people, and yet individuals allow themselves to subtly humiliate others, hiding behind the format of jokes. You can and should laugh at your shortcomings - others will appreciate your positive attitude and sense of humor. And over other people's features you should not even joke "harmlessly". You will not only hurt a person for the sick, but also show others that you were not taught tact in childhood.