We will tell you why young children who do not yet have sufficient experience of communicating with their peers behave aggressively.

Child aggression: why babies fight and how to react to it

Often you can see in the children's collective of individual comrades who start fights, take away toys and demand submission from others. Why even young children who do not yet have sufficient experience of communicating with peers behave this way?

The main causes of child aggression

As a rule, the aggressors are children who receive less love and attention from the family. The reasons can be very different:

  • parents work a lot and are busy with their production issues, and not with their child;
  • parents have strong conflicts with each other, which distract attention from the child;
  • the family has older children who bully the little one, and he takes out his resentment and anger on his peers outside the family. 

In any case, we initially look for the reasons for aggressive behavior in a family situation. The fear of losing parental love manifests itself as anger and aggression towards other children. Why to others, outside the family?

Because in a family, the child's expression of feelings is most likely limited. And for the demonstration of their anger towards adults, children get "over the ears". And it turns out that at home they are docile and obedient in order to somehow win parental encouragement, and “on the street” they give free rein to emotions. 

It is not very effective to “treat” such behavioral deviations through punishment and explanations that “you cannot behave this way”. After all, fear and anger must find a way out. And if they cannot manifest at home, then they will manifest outside it. In extreme situations, we are confronted with juvenile delinquency and antisocial behavior. 

Dealing with aggressive child behavior

There is only one way out - to understand the family system. It is important to understand that the behavior of a child is the result of the attitude of parents towards their child. This is not about good or bad parenting, but the emotional bond between adult and child. The attention of the parent, his involvement in childhood experiences, acceptance of the entire spectrum of the baby's feelings (from love to aggression) work wonders.

By changing the parent's attitude to the child, it is possible to regulate not only the behavior of the "little monster", but also the development of his personality and intellectual potential.